swagmeupbitch asked: What is your opinion on gender roles and attraction? Not necessarily in a broad sense, but for you, personally.
I don’t take gender seriously in the slightest. Gender roles, gender identities, all of it is such a joke. My body’s gender is like my hair color: random and nothing to do with who I am. I understand why others look to their gender for a sense of self but it just seems arbitrary and limiting.
The notion of gender and what qualities are attributed to it vary immensely from culture to culture. That in itself should highlight the fact that it is nothing more than a fiction we have agreed upon.
Attraction is a physical thing. My body finds women attractive. I honestly don’t understand why women find men attractive, but I’m glad they do. :P
Men who are ‘shallow’ seek women who fit a certain physical preference. Women who are ‘shallow’ seek men who instill a sense of security. Those are just my own observations and both circumstances are obviously subject to exceptions.
When attraction is liberated from any sense of need, then it’s more about a person with whom I might share this dream of form. Two lucid dreamers sharing in a dream does sound quite romantic.
All in all, I’m quite content letting gender be where it is: the body. Anything more than that is just a game.
When we acknowledge our shared humanity with another person, we connect with them in a surprisingly intimate way. They become like family to us, and this helps dissolve our isolation and aloneness.
Pema Chodron (via lazyyogi)
We are all One.